Saturday, June 23, 2012

Moving In, Heading Out!


Today I finished setting up the basement / library / office / man cave.  Well, whatever you want to call it, it is the one space in the house that I get to make mine...



That makes three rooms that we've opened all the boxes and moved completely in.  Yes, we have a long way to go, but we finally feel like we've made progress!  Living Room, check.  Family Room, check.  Library, check.  Luckily June (my mother-in-law) has returned to help Carrie finish the move-in process because I'm heading out to a busy week.  

Before brain surgery I didn't think much about busy weeks and weekends, but after surgery it is a whole different story!  Moving into the house wouldn't have been a big deal before surgery, but post-op it felt monumental.  I am leading all three worship services for the first time since my brain surgery...for my last (Farewell) Sunday at the Pontiac church.  My last Sunday in a church would be an exhausting task anyway, but after brain surgery it feels daunting to lead worship, preaching, and greet and talk with people.  Oh, and lest I forget, I volunteered for church camp and leave Sunday afternoon for a full week of being a chaplain.  It will be a recharge and help me get back into the swing of being an active pastor...but holy cow it's going to wear me out.

Don't get me wrong.  I'm excited for each and every thing that I'm doing.  This is stuff I love to do!  Oh- and I have plans for resting and taking care of myself, but surgery has sure changed the way I look at my days and weeks.  Every room I unpack, sermon I preach, and kid I hang out with at camp feels like a huge accomplishment (and makes me happy).



It's getting late and before too many sighs go up into cyberspace, I'll sign off and go to bed.


Friday, June 15, 2012

Parents, ugh!



Parents are wonderful.  Okay.  I know, I know, if you are a teenager it may not seem like it, right?  I remember that feeling.  As a teen, it is terrible when your parents show up...or don't show up...look at you wrong...or don't...or, well, when they speak.  Ugh, how could they be so weird and goofy?

If you are a teenager, am I on the right track?

Let me tell you, at 32 years old I have a different take.  Now, don't get me wrong, I don't always have a great relationship with my parents.  Sometimes they get on my nerves and sometimes I get on their last nerve, but, especially this week, I'm SOOO glad they are coming to help me.

First, let me tell you what next week is going to bring for my wife and me.  I have some work and then early in the week we have to go pick up a whole trailer full of stuff in St. Louis and move it to Normal.  Then, on Thursday the movers come (so the house has to be packed and cleaned), We move in and have a half day to unpack and then I have to leave for a wedding rehearsal (fri) and wedding (sat) that I am co-officiating in Pittsfield... then I have to be back Saturday night so I can be rested for my Farewell Sunday at Pontiac... and then Sunday afternoon I start as a chaplain for church camp at East Bay in Hudson, IL.

So I'm thrilled that my mother-in-law is here right now cleaning and helping us pack; my mother and father are coming next week to help us move and then my mother-in-law will be back to stay with carrie and help her pack while I'm at the wedding and camp.

When I was younger I was embarrassed and stressed out by my parents (I still have my moments :-), but as an adult I see blessings in their presence.  It turned out that having parents was actually an asset, who would've known?  I am so glad for my parents and my in-laws and all that they do for Carrie and me.  Whether you are young or old, I hope you will, this week, take a moment to think of how your parents are a blessing for your life.  If you are a teenager it may not be easy at first, but there are things your parents do that make your life better, I imagine.  Think really hard about it and you may see that they are a blessing for you!















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Saturday, June 2, 2012

Weight Watchers Saved My Life!


Lately I've had a whole lot of people comment on my weight.  Either they say something like, "Oh you've put on some weight, you look much better," or something like, "oh, you look too thin (or sick)."  Now, I know that it is all amplified because folks know I had a brain tumor: so I don't take it personally...but it has me worried!

I think it reveals a larger problem in society, especially the rural, midwestern culture here in Livingston County (Illinois). Our American Society is, quite simply, obese.  I was overweight until not long ago and now that I'm at the top end of my healthy weight range, everyone thinks I am sickly.  I still have flab, I'm still not fit and toned...yet everyone thinks I am now unhealthy!  Let me say it one more time:  I'm not even at the low side of my healthy weight range and everyone around me seems to be freaking out, why?  Because so many who are around us in rural midwestern America are overweight.  Overweight has become the standard, quite simply.

I'm not coming down on obesity because of how people act, by the way (I'm not calling people lazy), nor am I even upset because of how people look (It's really not about vanity).  I'm honestly concerned for my health, my family's health and for the people around us.  Being overweight is a serious problem which leads to all kinds of health problems such as diabetes and heart disease, for example.  And weight gain, beyond one's healthy weight range, is an indicator that one's diet and exercise are out of whack and that things are not well with your body!  (When you are gaining weight your body is trying to communicate with you)

Well, back to me.  Last week someone cornered me and shared their concern about my weight and I responded that Weight Watchers (my weight loss) saved my life.  It did, by the way!  I told them the story of how my spinal fluid leaked into my bed after my second surgery.  I told them about how the surgeon shared with Carrie that I would have died that night had I been any heavier or older.  I told them that losing 35 pounds and getting into my healthy weight range was not just to look better (vanity), it actually saved my life.  Now, I've responded this way with several people, but the reason this one interaction stands out in my mind is because the person responded to my story: first, by saying, "Oh my." and then saying, "what do you mean about a healthy weight range?"

They were serious.  They had no idea that based on sex and weight there are guidelines to help people find a healthy weight!  Today I want to begin correcting this view.  More importantly, I want to become more vocal about our need, especially in rural communities, to work against obesity and grow in health.  I want to do this work not to be critical of people or to be hurtful, but because I want to help.  There are many people suffering from the plight of obesity (or at least being overweight) and I would be remiss if I didn't share my own experiences and work to help them.  At my heaviest several years ago I was 225 and I hit my goal weight of 165 pounds a few weeks ago (when I arrived in Pontiac two years ago I was about 200).  I'm a 6' male and my healthy weight range is 147-184 according to Weight Watchers.  I got to where I am by eating more vegetables and fruits and cutting down my oil and carbohydrates, I got to where I am by eating well (not being hungry), and I got to where I am by adding some basic exercise to my routine which not only helped me feel better and lose weight, but also helped me to have more complete and enjoyable days.

I hope you will join me as I continue working to be more healthy.  Don't do it for me, do it for you!

Also, if you'd like to find you're body mass index (figure out how you are doing), click here!















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